Many of us know that talking to someone could be helpful. But when it comes to actually starting therapy, hesitation often creeps in. Thoughts like “I don’t really need it right now,” “Therapy won’t work for me,” or “I’m not the problem, so why should I go?” can sound convincing.
Underneath those thoughts, though, there are usually some very human fears. If you’ve ever found yourself holding back, you’re not alone. Here are a few of the most common reasons people hesitate to begin therapy:
Fear of what might come up. Our nervous system is designed to protect us. Sometimes it does this by steering us away from feelings and memories we’ve tucked away. The idea of opening those doors can feel overwhelming.
Believing that struggling means failure. Many of us grew up hearing we should be strong and independent. For some, relying only on yourself was a way to stay safe. Asking for help now can feel uncomfortable, even though it’s a deeply human thing to do.
Not sure about trust. If trust has been broken before, it makes sense that you might wonder if it will feel safe to open up with someone new. Trust takes time, and it’s okay to move slowly.
The “I’m fine” voice. We all have that part of us that says “I’m fine” just to get through the day. It helps us survive, but it can also keep us from giving care to what’s really hurting.
Worry that change will be too much. It’s common to feel that therapy might bring up more than you can handle. A good therapist will go at your pace. You don’t need to dive in all at once.
If any of this sound familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re not ready for therapy. It just means you’re human. These worries are normal, and even noticing them is already a step toward healing.
Therapy isn’t about erasing struggles. It’s about having a safe place where you can explore what’s happening, understand yourself more deeply and discover new ways forward.